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Sleep Like the Dead with Someone Else in Your Bed: Tips & Tricks for Sleeping with a Partner


We get it. Sometimes, even the best mattress can’t guard against your partner’s disruptive sleep habits. You might find yourself wide awake at 3 AM, just wondering how far you’re willing to go to get a break from those loud snores.

But don’t worry! We have some great nighttime hacks that will help you sleep like the dead and not end up on a True Crime podcast.

Why is Getting Enough Sleep Important?

Missing a restful night of sleep can lead to feelings of irritability, drowsiness, loss of focus, and tremors, among other physiological effects. And this is only scratching the surface. If you're waking up dead tired every morning and find yourself wanting to sink back into bed, you are not alone.

Most people find it hard to get a good night's rest, but it can be harder if you have to share a bed with a partner. Deep sleep is important as it mentally prepares you for the day ahead. Many factors contribute to a good night's rest such as the right bed size, the right mattress size and type, and coming up with a good compromise with your partner.

With one-third of your life spent sleeping, you must make sure you get the best sleep possible every night. Getting a good night’s sleep for both you and your partner is not only good for your health, but it can also make your relationship better.

Common Sleeping Issues

Most people have one or two sleeping habits that their partner could go without. But even if they’re aware that they shift around a lot or steel the covers, it’s not something that they can easily fix. And it’s probably not for a lack of trying.

They might be just as determined as you are to kick their restless nights to the curb and be able to have a peaceful sleep themselves.

Below are some of the most common sleep issues people face and how these problems might be corrected so that you can both sleep like the dead.


According to the National Sleep Foundation, thirty-seven million people worldwide admit to being regular snorers. It’s hard to get a good night's rest when you have that constant snore keeping you up. Even with a good mattress, your sleep can be compromised if you share a bed with someone who snores.

Oftentimes, snoring is the result of sleeping on your back, you might suggest that your beloved back sleeper turns onto their side for the night to see if it corrects the issue. If that doesn’t work, incorporate some lifestyle changes that may help alleviate the snoring problem; exercise works for most people.

Snoring can also be a sign of a more severe condition such as sleep apnea. If you or your partner snore excessively, you may want to consult with your GP for an assessment.

Sleeping Positions That Conflict with your Partner

Some people are stomach sleepers, side sleepers, or those who sleep just lying on their backs. Some people like to spoon and cuddle in bed, whereas others prefer to be left alone with a lot of personal space. It’s all about personal preference, but it can significantly affect sleep quality.

The much-argued-upon cuddling before bed was such an issue that the famous sitcom Friends even dedicated an episode to it, thus immortalizing the “hug and roll” technique.

Try to negotiate an agreeable position with your partner. Agree to cuddle before bed, for example, then letting the other person have his own space right up to the time leading to sleep; the key to better sleep and a better morning with your partner is all about knowing how to make some compromises.

A mattress made with memory foam layers also helps you both sleep better, no matter what your preferred sleeping position is.

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The Blanket Grab or Sheet Stealer 

Waking up at night because you’re too cold and your blanket is missing can affect the quality of your sleep. Even with a mattress that sleeps well, you can't get your much-needed rest if you find yourself in a constant blanket war with your partner; this can cause a lot of tension between couples.

Luckily, you can expect to solve this problem with a simple solution: agree to sleep with two separate blankets. Good blankets not only provide warmth but should be soft and comfortable to touch, made from the best material.

A good blanket is a perfect partner to a memory foam mattress. Leesa blankets and sheets are made from premium-grade materials, so you can get the best sleep every night.

The Restless Sleeper

Restless leg syndrome affects seven to ten percent of adults in the US. There are also those heavy sleepers who toss and turn at night even when they claim to sleep like a baby. Sharing a bed with a restless sleeper can get in the way of a good night's sleep.

If you or your partner suffers from either of these conditions, your sleep quality may be affected without you even knowing it.

Try to create a separate sleep space by having different blankets. You may also want to try out the Leesa Original Mattress with premium quality foam layers to help isolate movements during motion transfer.

Bed Position

When sleeping with your partner, make sure that your bed is accessible on both sides. You don’t want your bed against the wall and have your partner crawl over you when they have to get up in the middle of the night.

Even with the perfect mattress, frequent waking can affect sleep quality and can hinder you from getting good, deep sleep; you may find yourself feeling tired all the time.

Consider positioning your bed in a way that either side is not up against a wall; if this is not possible, decide on which partner gets to stay on the inner side of the bed, ideally, this partner does not frequently arise at night to go to the bathroom or to attend to some other business in the wee hours.

Other Ways to Create a Good Sleeping Environment

While it may feel like it’s wholly your partner’s fault, sometimes it’s not just their habits that are affecting your sleep quality. It might be a good idea to assess your sleeping environment to determine likely areas of discomfort for both you and your significant other so that you can make some changes.

Consider Separate Bedtimes

In a utopian world, couples sleep and wake up at the same time every day. But in real life, this is the exception, not the rule. Having separate bedtimes can affect how you sleep when you have to wake up at night or wake up earlier than you have.

A mattress with good edge support can help localize movements so you avoid disturbing one another even when you have separate bedtimes.

If one of you has to sleep earlier than the other, be mindful of not waking your sleeping partner. Try slowly inching your way from the edge of the bed and shifting your weight when you get in bed and your partner is already sound asleep.

Upgrade Your Linens and Pillows

Are you waking up to a stiff neck every day? Chances are, you’re not sleeping with the right pillow. Proper spine alignment is key to a restful night’s sleep. It may be time to toss those old pillows away and purchase better pillows that support the proper neck alignment. A gel memory foam pillow can make all the difference.

Soft sheets or a quilted cover with a high thread count are also more comfortable to sleep in, so it might be time to give your sheets an upgrade too.

Switch to the Leesa Premium Foam Pillow and the Leesa Bamboo Cotton Sheet Set to get the best sleep for you and your partner. Pair these with any Leesa memory foam mattress or any Leesa hybrid mattresses that have multiple layers to bring you and your partner the best sleep every night with the best comfort and pressure relief.

For those wondering how to select the best pillow for your normal sleeping position, Leesa is here to help! Check out our other blog on How to Select the Right Pillow .

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Ideal Sleep Temperature

Experts state that the ideal temperature conducive to sleep is 60-67 degrees Fahrenheit. However, it’s all about a matter of preference. To get the best sleep, you have to work out a middle ground with your partner for the right room temperature regulation.

Sleep temperature is also influenced by the mattress material. The best mattress to get the best sleep is a memory foam mattress with cooling memory foam gel layers that helps lower body heat, all the while providing the support that you need.

Invest in the Leesa Original Mattress. It has a cooling memory foam upper layer that helps to reduce body temperature heat. Sleeping in the right temperature can help you sleep better, and wake up to a better morning every day.

This mattress also provides you with the support that you need that helps you arise to pain-free neck and shoulders every day.

The Mattress Topper

A good mattress topper can provide you and your partner with additional comfort through the night. A mattress topper is a good investment, especially if your mattress is already worn, but you still don’t have plans on replacing it.

A mattress topper adds to the solid foundation your Leesa mattress already has, providing you with additional support and a better night's rest.

Try the Leesa Mattress Topper for additional support for stomach sleepers, side sleepers, or for any type of position. A good mattress topper comes with a reasonable price and can make all the difference for a good night's rest with added pressure relief.

A Silent Environment

A silent room is an ideal environment for a restful night’s sleep. To avoid disturbances while you and your partner slumber, you want your bedroom to be as silent as possible. When total silence is not possible, try playing some relaxing music or white noise in the background.

A silent environment to sleep in coupled with the Leesa mattress is the perfect equation for a restful night.

Turn off any electronic device that can cause noise, such as the radio or TV. If you live in a noisy environment, try playing some white noise to drown out the sound and create a more restful ambiance.

Use of Sleep Aids

Sleep disorders affect 70 million Americans yearly. If you or your partner are suffering from restless nights due to sleep disorders, you may find over-the-counter sleep aids helpful in getting in that much-needed forty winks.

There are also non-medicinal sleep aids such as earplugs and eye masks to help you sleep better.

Keep in mind, though, before you start any treatment, consult with your doctor first.

Consider scheduling a visit with your GP to discuss the possible use of sleep aids. You can also invest in quality earplugs that limit the sounds that you can hear. Comfortable, soft, eye masks also help. Play around with whatever combination suits you to get the best comfort that will help you sink right into sleep.

Technology and Sleep

Studies have shown that blue light suppresses melatonin, a hormone responsible for sleep regulation. Even with the right mattress, you may find it hard to sleep when you are constantly on your phone before bedtime.

Try to stick to a schedule for using your cell phone or laptop and strictly avoid using them in the hours leading to bedtime.

If you or your partner need to work late and have to be on their gadgets after hours, make sure that you make it up the following night and stick to your sleep routine of avoiding devices before bedtime.

Keep Your Room Dark

Sleeping in a dark bedroom is better for your mental health. When you sleep in a dark bedroom, your body’s circadian rhythm is more in tune, so you naturally enter a deeper state of sleep—keeping your bedroom dark also promotes feelings of rest and relaxation so that you can fall asleep faster.

Try keeping your bedroom as dim as possible. If your partner cannot sleep in total darkness, you can opt for a small nightlight with a low-wattage bulb.

Best Mattress for Your Restless Partner

Leesa uses state-of-the-art technology to deliver the best mattress experience for every type of sleeper. All of the foams used in our Leesa mattress are CertiPUR-US® certified, giving you the best polyurethane foam in the industry.

For less than $1000, you can have a premium mattress that will let you sleep like a baby. Leesa mattresses have three layers, and an additional layer to provide the best sleep experience a mattress can offer.

These multiple mattress layers help give the best spine, shoulder, and hip support for all types of sleepers.

Comfort Layer

  • Breathable foam materials that are exclusive to Leesa. This foam sleeps excellently, hugging you and bouncing what you want from a mattress.

  • Hole punched for extra mattress breathability.

Memory Foam Recovery Layer

  • High-density memory foam provides body contouring and superior support that meets superior industry standards.

  • Provides support to pressure points such as the hips and shoulders even with deadweight weighing it down. This makes for a pain-free sleep experience.

  • The memory foam layer has a cooling property that helps regulate body temperature.

Relief and Stability Layer

  • Comfort foam plus eight hundred micro-coils at the head and foot of the mattress will keep your hips and spine aligned for a pain-free sleep every night.

  • Provides edge support that improves the stability of the mattress through proper weight distribution

Base Layer

  • The base layer is the foundation layer. The supportive core foam provides support and body contouring for every type of sleeper. Leesa mattresses have you covered from every angle with multiple foam layers.

  • Quick-response individually wrapped springs provide stability and durability to the mattress. This also provides added pressure relief.

Like you and your partner, the Leesa mattresses wants to have a relationship that lasts. That’s why every Leesa mattress comes with a ten-year warranty. If you want to elevate your relationship with your partner even while you sleep, you can try a Leesa mattress for 100 nights- risk-free. If you're not satisfied with your Leesa mattress, you can expect to receive compensation for a full refund–talk about a fair deal!

The Leesa mattresses also come in different price ranges so you can find a mattress that fits your budget. Leesa doesn’t stop there. You can also get mattress financing for as low as $25 monthly so that you can purchase a new mattress without having to break the bank.

When you and your partner decide to take your sleep experience to the next level, Leesa will be right here to meet your needs with the right mattress purchase. Leesa mattresses do a great job of helping you sleep better. Check out Leesa mattresses for a better sleep today.